Saturday, November 27, 2010

Serving Without Sexual Gratification

Let's face it, as slaves most are ready to serve and do whatever their owners may command. Some are shown to the owner's friends, some wash dishes, clean houses and clean cars, some of money slaves and give everything they make to their owners, some cook and even clean their owners after a sexual encounter between the owner and his or her equal mate. Nonetheless though, a slave has some desires. If those desires were not there, they would never seek slavery.

Imagine the female slave who, while watching her owner have sex, becomes aroused and feels a heat stirring between her legs, or the male slave who is at constant erect attention when washing his owner's back. Unless you are neutered or spayed, you have to feel some sort of sexual feelings at the thought of being in a certain situation with your owner.

Take me for example, when I'm with a Domme or Dom who has placed a collar or leash around my neck, I'm instantly hard. I am throbbing and bobbing around as I'm lead to do things. I could be heading to the kitchen to cook, but I'm as hard as a rock. The desire for some form of sexual release is there, but the fact remains that some owners never want sex with their slaves and never want sexual contact with them. However, with this in mind, there are ways the owner can ensure a sexual release for his or her slave without having sexual contact. Below is a short list of suggestions:
1. allow the slave a certain day to masturbate
2. allow the slave to masturbate while watching you with your partner
3. make the slave masturbate for your friends
4. have the slave masturbate for you and your lover to watch
5. have the slave masturbate into a cup (males only) and be creative from there
6. have another slave service the slave
7. make one slave a dominant for the night and have them use another slave

The list goes on and on, but you should get the idea. The only way to ensure your slave does not have sexual desires is through medications or some form of body modifications.


Wednesday, November 24, 2010

The Pain of a Slave

Ultimately the BDSM lifestyle is about submission. After all, we slaves want to be dominated, told what to do, and used in various ways. Some slaves crave financial domination (oh, for those of you craving this I can have a dominant bone for you, lol), some crave sexual domination, others crave mental domination, and some simply want to serve as a maid! As you can imagine, the field is unlimited. It even goes right up to the door of pain.

A slave craving pain is usually complimented by an owner craving to give the pain. It can be something as simple as a slap on the face or ass, to something as severe as cigarette burns and even castration or other body modifications. Each slave is different in his or her limits. Take me for example, a good ball-busting is within my limits; however, I have no desire to have a cigarette burn, perm tattoo, or have a body part removed...especially not my balls!

If you are a slave and you feel you want to experiment with pain, then I have the following suggestions for you and your owner:
1. Start out light - No "Hard Candy" movies to start with here because once it's's done.

2. Talk about it- know what the expectations are for both of you.

3. Define what you seek - yep, look inside and ask, "why do I want to have 'X'" For me, 'X' was CBT and I love the feeling of not being in control of my cock and having a dominant partner take total control of my most sensitive part (darn, got a hard-on just typing this!)

4. Don't force it - Owners, if you tie down your slave and then decide you're going to brand him or her on the ass, giving them no choice, then you've moved from being a dominant to being a criminal...don't go there or you'll be someone's bitch in jail.

5. No spur of the moment - no matter how much of a hard-on you have, how much juices is flowing between your legs, or how sensitive your breast are - don't just decide on the sexual tide you want to be branded, hurt, or any other form of major pain. A slap on the bottom or across the face is likely okay for the spur of the moment, not something major like nipple rings or Prince Albert piercings.

6. Safe word- yes, you've heard it a thousand times. Have a safe word or a safe sign if you have your slave gagged. When talking about pain, it may sound like a great idea to have your nuts in the hand of your owner as he or she twist the handle of a vice down on them, but when that pain starts - it's a whole new ballgame (no pun intended). I once had an owner who fulfilled my CBT desires. She was in a wheelchair so her arms and hands were very strong from years of working the chair. She basically put her vice grip on my fruits and started to squeeze. I was gagged and tied so there was little I could do and we had no safe word at that time. Her grip was simply too much for me. Contrary to sex movies that would have you believe that this sort of torture would simply cause the slave to pass out, it has a different effect. First the pain grows, eventually you're crying, then your head is spinning in pain, then you start feeling the squeeze from your balls all the way into your stomach, and before you know it you're throwing up your lunch. With a gag on when you start throwing up, there is nothing sexy, pretty or even sensual about that. No, the fantasy of my Domme squeezing me into sleep and waking up later still under her control didn't happen. Let's just say it wasn't pretty!

So, take these points into consideration before you subject yourself to being a pain slut. Dominants, please consider this too. On, and while we're on this topic...anyone looking for some fruit to squeeze....I'm really ripe!

Friday, November 5, 2010

My Poll

Well, if you jumped in to read this thinking it was about my poll, sorry. It's actually about the polls I had taken on the right. I'm surprised that I only got two votes (one on each). If possible, I'd love to hear some comments from readers. You don't even have to sign in to comment.

Remember, I'm still looking for a good owner to tame my raging poll! Hey, I had to give you some bone to chew on. :)